I often being so sad. I don't know which causing me being sad. It comes suddenly, even without clear reasons. It could be every week or every day. Certainly, everyone has been sad in their life. Had you ever feel sad? How was it felt? Is it nice or hurt?
Yesterday, I felt very sad. I don't know how can I am being sad, I have no reason. At that morning, I waked up, preparing my self and going to work. It was normal. I am happy, but not so excited. After doing many works in the office, I continued to do my own joblist and suddenly I had a bad mood. I am so sad. Carrying motorcycle by a tiny tears. I only can say "Allah... please save me, save my family" in my heart.
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Sad is a feeling in which there
is an incompetence. We feel that something lost in our heart or something
different comes to attack us (read: emotional). Sadness, dissappoinment, and
problems are very related in this term. It can also being depression. Abdullah [1]
said that:
“Normal
(ordinary) depression is apparent in the periods of sadness and disappointment
we may suffer, in the forms of guilt, an increase in or loss of appetite,
and/or an overall lack of energy. We may also experience these feelings in
response to negative situations, e.g., the loss of a job, an argument with a
friend, a poor mark on an exam, insecurity, poor communication with others, and
the rise of problems for which the individual cannot find a solution, or of an
inability to cope.”
Sadness can caused by their own
personal or the external factors including people (family, friends, job
partners) and the situation (weather, nature, institutional conflict, or even accident).
The point of that causes is “problem” and everyone has the different problem. Its
was influenced by many factors; spiritual, morality, education, economy, social
state, gender and age. Someone perfectionist and introvert is less resistant to
sadness, especially caused by their own ego. They did self-defeating when it is
based on a condition that one cannot possibly do anything about. First example;
a director of factory A was depressed because of high losses of factory and he
blame his self. He feel that it was caused by his unability to carry his
business well. Second; Perhaps, while a person is away on a vacation, her housband
dies. She may reproach herself by saying (perhaps without expressing it
openly), “Maybe if I hadn’t gone on this vacation, he would have lived”. For the
external factors, there are so many. It could be punishing by their boss, slur,
betrayal, deception, etc.
Out of that problems, suddenly
someone being sad without a reason, like I experinced yesterday. Sometimes there
is no apparent reason for these periods of sadness or disappointment; it seems
as if it is just a feeling we have to go through. Sometimes the depressed
person is aware of a problem, but feels powerless and lacks normal energy and
assertiveness. In other cases, the depression may be quite pronounced and
persistent, but the individual in question is still able to function reasonably
well in everyday life. This is ordinary, simple neurotic depression. But since
it is not disabling, it is not regarded as a mental illness. [1]
In my opinion, sadness is not
always bad. It can be a balancing for our self. No people can be happy every
time. If they never being sad, it means they could not feel the “happiness”. They
was a pair. I can not say it is “tasty” if i never taste the “plain”, isn’t it?
And, basicly we (humans) was
given the happiness and sadness. Omar [2] mentioned that:
1.
No human
being is burdened with trouble and difficulties they cannot bear.The Quran
teaches “(God) will never place a burden on a soul that it can not bear”. This
shows that the human being can bear many unthinkable burdens, that one
initially feels that they cannot bear. How many times in your life, you felt
you cannot take it anymore, but you lived through it? How many humans go
through great difficulties in life but live through it?
2.
After
every hardship is easeLife is one difficulty after another. One task after
another, one issue after another. However, it is important to know that while
life tests us, there is ease after hardship. There is the ease of death after
the hardship of life, there is ease of sleep after the hardships of the day,
there is ease of retirement after the hardship of a career, and everything has
a high and a low. What goes up, must come down, likewise, Tough times only
mean, the times of ease are near. The Quran teaches, “The morning light after
the stillness of darkness”….when its dark everything seems still as if it will
never go away. The fact is nothing remains forever and nothing remains the
same. So, after every time of difficulty there is ease. The Quran teaches,
“There is ease after hardship, Indeed there is ease after hardship.”
3.
Suffering
purifies our humanness. When we go through difficult times, when we have a
financial loss, when we lose a loved one, when we struck by bad times, it
brings out the real humanness in us, and we begin to ask the very questions
that are most fundamental to us, “Why are we here?”, “What is the purpose of
life”, “why me”, “What happened to all my plans and dreams, etc. We learn the
frailty of our humanness. The Prophet of Islam, Muhammad (peace be upon him)
said, “Look at the ones who are less fortunate then you, not at the ones are
more fortunate then you.”
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So, I conclude that sadness is a
way to giving back us to Allah., to remember that we are nothing in His Face.
Allahu Akbar. Allah is full of strength, the only owner of all the strength. It
is better for us.
Malang, 2nd
Oct ’14 [10.34]
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